Sometimes It Just Doesn't Fit

Hello, my #LittleRebels! Have you ever bought something that did not exactly fit right, but you decided to purchase it anyway simply because you wanted it too much?

Well, I found myself facing a similar problem a few days ago. I went to the SM Aura shopping mall last Monday to celebrate a friend's birthday. While browsing through a couple of stores, I came across this amazing pair of black spiked slip-ons that I immediately knew I had to have in my closet! Honestly, it was love at first sight.

After trying them on, I could say that they were perfect. The fact that they were spiked and sparkly (a blend of edginess and glamour) really appealed to me. But wait! There was only one problem . . . They did not exactly 'fit'. Darn my size 9 feet!

I asked the store associates if they had a pair in my size, but unfortunately they didn't. Size 8 was the largest size that they had available.

Oh no! What do I do?

Of course, since I wanted the shoes so badly, I decided to make a list of reasons of why I should get them (as opposed to why I shouldn't lol).

1) They weren't THAT tight on me. Sure, they felt a little uncomfortable, but beauty is pain, right? RIGHT?
2) I can always bring an extra pair of shoes with me in case the size 8 shoes started hurting my feet too much.
3) They're spiked.
4) They're sparkly.
5) Need I say more?

However, as I was about to purchase them, my friend told me to walk around the store for a little bit and see if I could tolerate the discomfort that the shoes were causing me. Reluctantly, I agreed.

I spent a good 15 minutes walking around the shop and browsing through the other items. After that, though, I had to give it up. The shoes started to cause me extreme pain! Since they were too small, they were making my toes bend at awkward angles every time I took a step. I guess they weren't "perfect" after all. I guess it wasn't meant to be.

This started to get me thinking about real-life relationships in terms of shoes.

At first glance, it may seem perfect to you. Maybe you'd even go so far as to call it "destiny". So you try it on, hoping for the best, and even though you start noticing that something is wrong, you force yourself to believe that everything is okay as long as you "bear the pain".

After a while, the pain becomes too much for you to handle, but still you try to tough it out. I mean, it's perfect! It's everything you ever wanted! The pain will be worth it in the end, right?

THE ANSWER IS NO. Just like the pair of sparkly spiked shoes that caught my heart, eventually you'll get tired of the pain, and you'll decide that they're no longer worth the agony and the stress that they are imposing upon you. Eventually you'll have to accept that no matter how much you want it, IT DOESN'T WANT YOU. And the worst part is, you'll end up hurting yourself while the shoes remain perfectly intact. 

I wanted the shoes even though they were too small for me. I really, really did. I even made up so many excuses to convince myself they were worth it. In the end, though, I did not end up purchasing them. Because I realized something . . .


So even though it broke my heart to leave the shoes behind, I knew that one day, I'll find another pair . . . An even better pair. A pair that won't hurt whenever I wear them. A pair that fits just right.

And THAT will be worth it.

"With the right person, you don't have to work so hard to be happy. It just happens, effortlessly."


  1. Nice post! Love your articles! By the way I nominated you for s Liebster Award! This is the link:
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  2. Nice!
    Have a nice day, kisses.

  3. This is so true, love the post. As I was reading it, all I was thinking about was in everything you do be it relationship, clothes, shoes, a job whatever it may be, if it doesn't fit discard fast. Thanks for the post.

  4. Really nice slippers!!!

  5. Kylie! This was such a lovely read. I have actually bought a pair of shoes that didn't fit right a long time ago. They were a size smaller. Sure they were pretty but they were too painful I ended up getting blisters. I never wore them again. But as destiny would have it I found an even better pair later on. If the shoe fits then you don't have to feel any pain. It fits perfectly well. Relationships are indeed the same. If it's too forced then you end up getting tired of putting all the effort all on your own or worse you'd come out badly scathed. I really adore this write up. I'm missing you more and more na tuloy. I'll see you soon. I have a really good feeling about it. :)

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  7. These are so cute!!! But the pain is not worth them, shoes should be comfortable!

    Style and Paper

  8. they are so nice! :)
    have a great weekend :*

  9. i want it,very amazing

  10. hey..nice article. ' love your post.

  11. you can try using a hairdryer to warm it up, wear the shoes with thick socks and it should be a little bit less tight!

  12. This is sooo true! I've found myself in this dilemma before just because I'm tired of looking for "the one".. But in my case though, most of the shoes I mistakenly bought were a little large for me. For some reasons, when I fit them on the store, it's okay but apparently when I started walking and using them, it's so hard to walk because they're so wide and large for me that my feet would slip out of it. LOL

  13. Ugh, I absolutely know the feeling. This happens to me often, but in my case, I have small feet! The last time was very painful because I really fell in love with a pair of red pumps. But it was 3 sizes larger than my size. I even considered purchasing it, that I would only wear it while doing photo shoots because it would not be noticeable (because yes, that's how gorgeous the shoes were!). But I knew that would be silly and it won't be worth it because I would love to actually wear the shoes.
    Love this post ; )


  14. Those shoes are definately worth the pain, haha!

  15. Of course it happened! I have shoes that are too small, or clothes too large. I only buy shoes with some room now.

  16. I know what your talking about because one time I saw this gorgeous shirt and wanted to buy it even though it was to small. Sadly, once I got home to try it on I got stuck in. I could hardly breathe and had to cut it just to get it off! Haha, after that horrid experience I decided to never buy something that's to small. :(

    xoxo ♥ @ItsBerryStylish  

  17. cool shoes! I love Christian Louboutin!

  18. OMG this was seriously an amazing post. Your analogy is so true!!! we all at least once have gone through a similar experience, I mean with relationships, when we want to make them work so badly! you know? even when we know it does not worth it. I completely agree with your thoughts, you will find a better pair :) Thanks for sharing!


  19. Awesome post! Xx

  20. I used to do this all the time and never though about it in terms of reality! Great analogy. I totally agree with you -- if it isn't the right fit, move along!


    Looks by Lau

  21. These shoes have made for a brilliant analogy, Kylie! You have a very good point, if the shoes don't fit.. leave them behind (and the same applies to relationships)!
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  22. To me, it happens all the time my dear lol

  23. such an interesting post dear,i guess this often happens to most shoe lovers out there,have personally bought shoes and worn them only one but i still cant get rid of them

  24. I never thought of this "real life problem" when buying shoes, but you are so right in so many ways! Great post doll! xo

  25. Oh Kylie I love fashion philosophising!!! You are a smart gal, you know that?? Tons of love
    Coco et La vie en rose / Bloglovin / Facebook

  26. Gorgeous shoes, but if you don't feel comfortable then you won't feel confident - that's what I always think when it comes to clothes, and something better will always come along in it's place! :)

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  27. Awesome! Yes, sometimes we have to let go of things that can't fit to us. We have to choose comfortable than having it and miserable naman...


  28. I once bought a pair of shoes which are one size smaller than my feet, but I mostly keep them in my closet and take them out every once in a while to look at them and contemplate their beauty haha :D

    Bella Pummarola

  29. It happens often!

  30. Awesome post. Hope you have an amazing brand new week!


  31. These pairs so fashionable, I know some shoes aren't comfy at all, but can't really stopped me to grab them:). if I also walks around in shop, it makes me find even more to take them home with me. Terrible huh? .


  32. As a fellow size 9-er, story of my life! I hate how I convince myself that I won't have to walk far distances so it'll be okay. It's never okay!


  33. Oh yes--been there done that! There's nothing that's more of a letdown than finding that perfect item--yet, not the right size. Good for you--you made the right decision! :) T.

  34. there are a lot of tutorials dear
    for making a shoe fit.
    they look awesome pa naman.

    Ms. Kei

  35. that's correct.. i think there's always a limit as to how much "pain" you're willing to take for fashion. :)

    Animated Confessions

  36. I have done exactly that a thousand times - so silly but we need to spoil ourselves every now and again :)
    Such a hoarder hahahaha

    These shoes are super cool and def. your style Kylie. Can't wait to see more of your fashion outfits sporting these babies ;)

  37. These shoes are stunning! Basically, I agree with your point of view... But fashion is fashion and somehow we have to deal with all these little issues:)


  38. Hello felow size 9-ners! It really suck to have such a gigantic feet! While reading this, i was like wow this is so true! As always i love reading your entry <3

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  39. Fantastics slippers!!!


  40. hahahhaha OMG!!! so relate!!! hahahha etchusera tlaga ako, bumili ako ng top kahit na parang di kasya sa kin LOL because I fell in love it hahaha cray-cray levels lang, I ended up giving to my sister nalng hehehe <3

    love lots,


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